Alvin, a popular content creator based in Lagos, [Nigeria](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nigeria), publicly condemned the conduct of numerous Nigerian men toward women, stating that he considers himself a "strong hater of Nigerian men." In a video posted online, he explained that his remarks were intentional and warned against the common defence that "not all men act that way."
He recounted the experience of a woman who went out for a meal with a friend and was approached by a man who first complimented her and then asked for her social media handle. According to Alvin, the man's opening message to the woman was a request to "make out in his car," which he labelled as clear [sexual harassment](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_harassment).
Alvin expressed disappointment after observing roughly 50 to 60 comments from men on X defending the message, insisting that many saw nothing wrong with the approach. He questioned why women are frequently blamed for men’s inappropriate actions and asked how the defenders would react if the same message were sent to their own mothers or sisters.
He further accused some men of only condemning such behaviour when it involves women close to them, while dismissing the suffering of other women. The video, originally shared on Instagram, sparked a heated debate across social platforms.
**What did Alvin say about the defenders?**
Alvin challenged the men who justified the incident, asking them to imagine the scenario happening to a family member, thereby highlighting the double standard in public discourse.
**Why is this issue significant?**
The episode underscores ongoing concerns about gender-based harassment in Nigeria’s digital spaces and the need for broader societal accountability.
*The original post appeared on [Linda Ikeji Blog](https://www.lindaikejisblog.com).*