Generosity in Relationships: A Nigerian Man's View on Financial Support as a Sign of Love

A Nigerian man, Abraham Augustine, has put forth the view that a man who truly loves his partner will demonstrate this affection through financial contributions, such as giving money or buying gifts, or by offering support in any capacity possible.

Augustine shared his perspective on Facebook on Tuesday, January 20, 2026, following a woman's complaint about her partner withholding financial assistance even when requested.

He posited that a man who refrains from giving within a relationship is exhibiting a 'red flag'.

He further elaborated that people often extend kindness and assistance to individuals they are not even romantically involved with, suggesting that such generosity should naturally extend to one's spouse.

"Giving in a relationship is based on the heart condition of both parties. There’s no man who truly loves a woman that won’t give. You must not have plenty to give; one must be intentional, and that’s sacrifice. There’s no woman who loves a man that won’t give. Women have money too. Even God gave us His best to prove His love," he stated.

He continued, "However, a woman’s life is full of expenses. At least, surprise your woman and give her money to make her hair, buy some important things for her upkeep. It’s not your responsibility, but this is the woman you want to marry. Would she rather look tattered for you? God forbid. Let’s not deceive ourselves. If a man truly loves a woman, he will give her money, period."

Augustine reiterated, "It's not a sweeping statement that a man who doesn't give in a relationship is a huge 'red flag'."

He acknowledged the common sentiment that women also possess financial resources and should contribute, stating, "The general consensus is that women have money too. They should give too. While that may be true."

However, he clarified his stance: "Giving a woman money isn't about lavishly spending on her. A man must give."

He emphasized the intentionality behind such acts: "It's an intentional movement. How can you be dating a woman and you've never given her money to make her hair, buy her gifts or support her in little ways you can."

He concluded by drawing a parallel to broader kindness: “We assist people we don't even date. That's kindness. Why can't same kindness be extended to the woman we love? Kindness makes a man attractive. If you don't give in a relationship. You can't give in marriage.”